Decisiones

I feel horrible.  Eusebio and I had planned for him to go to Mexico the end of August.  He had made a promise that he would be there for the one year anniversary of his father’s death.  I was so happy for him to finally be able to keep this promise.  I found out yesterday that due to the timing of submitting paperwork, etc. to the National Visa Center his appointment probably won’t be until beginning of November.  Basically we have two options.  He can stay here in Minnesota until it’s closer to the appointment date or he could still leave when we were planning, end of August.  I feel horrible because I know it’s a hard decision for him to make.  I know that he really wants to go and see his family, especially on this specific occasion.  I feel like I am being selfish by asking him to stay here.  I haven’t asked him yet.  I want him to make this decision, and I will support him either way.  I need my husband here with me, and Liliana needs her father too.  This way to, we would be able to save up more money, and not be under so much pressure for him to leave in a hurry.  Also, I don’t have any more vacation time that I can take this year, and wouldn’t be able to visit until probably next February for Liliana’s third birthday.  We are hoping to get her baptized when we go down to visit.  Well, I just wanted to vent a little, and express my concern about Eusebio leaving sooner than I’d like. I love him to death, and I don’t want to be away from him longer than I need to be.  It is already unfortunate that we have to go through this process in the first place.

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La Promesa

So today my husband, Chevo got his Pasaporte. It was kind of exciting to see him so lit up. Maybe having it makes him feel more Mexican. We’ve talked a lot about how he has never been an adult in Mexico. He came here when he was 17 to Georgia first. That is where his uncle was working, and my husband started doing siding with him. “Un Saidero” Is what a person who does siding is called. Kind of silly. He really likes doing siding though. He is really good at it too. I love that he does something that he loves.

While we were waiting for his passport today, we went to have breakfast at McDonalds- my favorite. We talked a lot about when he leaves. He doesn’t like making plans. That is a typical Mexican trait. He also didn’t want to talk about details because he wants to leave things for us to talk about while he is gone. It makes me sad to think about this.

Chevo’s dad died last year August 31, 2010. It was between him and his brother, Carlos to decide which one of them went to Mexico. They both obviously wanted to go. However, they needed one to stay, to help the other one return. How did they make such an important decision? Basically because Carlos isn’t married and he had been away from their family more years they decided Carlos would go. They also based this decision on the fact that because Chevo and I are preparing to get his citizenship it would not be in his best interest to go home and risk not being able to come back. I was very grateful that he made such a big sacrifice. He made a promesa that he would return home on the anniversary of his father’s death. I respect my husband’s decision 100% that he goes home to Mexico for this occasion.  However, this kind of throws a wrench in our plans. You see, his appointment in Juarez will probably be scheduled in October. If he leaves for Mexico in August, we risk him being long over a year. At a recent appointment with our lawyer, she said it has changed from approximately 2-18 months down to 2-12 months out of the country assuming things go OK. I can get into this more in a different entry. The fact is, I don’t want him to be gone at all… let alone more than one year. I would like to hear what you think about that? It’s a hard decision to make. One that I don’t really feel like thinking about right now.

Spanish to English

Pasaporte- Passport

Saidero- Someone who does Siding

Promesa- Promise